“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” This verse from the second chapter of Genesis is the foundation for the institution of marriage. Let’s take a look at how seriously one friend of mine takes this.
If you abide in Me and My word abides in you, then you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.
Sheri de Grom is a writer friend from Arkansas. If you don’t know Sheri, check out her blog here. She is retired from a career that gave her a lot of insight into the ills of the workings of our government. She is also a loving wife who married for life.
I don’t know the details of Sheri’s story, but at some time in the past her husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and she has been through a nightmare of trials in dealing with hospitals, doctors, government red-tape, etc., in trying to get help for him. Read yesterday’s post THE WRONGS OF PSYCHIATRIC CARE – Part 1 of 2 for the details of her ordeal.
Rather than repeat what she’s already written, and written better than I could anyway, I want to talk about her as a person and an example of a loving, Godly wife. A football coach of mine used to say, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” If so, Sheri certainly qualifies as tough.
She quotes statistics in her post that 75% to 90% of marriages involving a bipolar partner end in divorce. Having had very little experience with the disorder, I can only imagine some of the horrors involved, but that statistic is enough to convince me it must be pretty bad.
A different person from Sheri could have joined in the majority side of that statistic and walked away from her mate and her marriage. Her life would undoubtedly be much simpler and easier if she had. But Sheri’s not a different person.
Sheri understood the words of Jehovah in Genesis about cleaving. She heard the words in her marriage vows, “. . .in sickness and in health . . . ’til death do us part.” She knows that marriage is a covenant relationship between a man and a woman with God at the center to hold them together. And she does what it takes.
If you venture over to her site to read this post, you’ll see the love that motivates her. You’ll glimpse the tenacity with which she clings to her husband and pursues every avenue to try to get him the treatment he needs. You will infer from her writing that the man has suffered some dementia with his condition. I’m not sure whether or not he even knows her. But she knows him, and she knows her commitment to him.
I’ve never been put to the kind of test Sheri has dealt with for a number of years now. I don’t know how well I would fare with such a test. I sincerely hope I never have to find out. I’m pretty sure a lot of us would score much lower marks than Sheri.
If you want to see what ’til death do us part looks like, look at Sheri de Grom. It would be difficult to find a better example.
Who do you know who has had to fight this sort of battle? What battles have you had to fight on behalf of your spouse? We’d love to hear your story.
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