Miscellaneous Mondays

We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.

Slight alteration in blogs starting this week: switching Monday’s and Wednesday’s blogs. On Miscellaneous Mondays, we’ll talk about whatever happens to pop into my head—or any suggestion you may have made for a topic. Worshipful Wednesdays will be posts devoted to Christian themes. Forensic Fridays will delve into examining this strange language we speak and write. Now, on to today’s subject.

You remember Anabel? The waitress at my favorite breakfast spot whose travails I’ve chronicled several times as she worked through the waiting and red tape trying to get her husband admitted to the United States as a legal immigrant?

One day last week I walked into the restaurant, and she ran over to me with a huge smile on her face. He was here! She finally had her family back together, and her kids had a father back home.

As a conscientious, law-abiding and patriotic American, I do want to see our laws properly enforced. I don’t think it’s right for people to cross our borders illegally and use the largesse of our system to support them in a style they’d never have back home. But the case of Anabel’s husband doesn’t exactly fit that mold.

He was brought across the border as a child and had nothing to do with either the decision to come or the method of doing so. He was, in every sense, an innocent victim of decisions made for him by others.

Nor was he rounded up and deported because of participating in some crime or I.C.E. sweep. Recognizing how wrong it was to be here illegally, he turned himself in and was sent back to Mexico voluntarily.

Surely our immigration laws and regulations should see a man in his position as a different case from those who keep sneaking across the border of their own volition in an attempt to take advantage of our standard of living. You’d think so, but apparently they don’t.

This man had to remain in Mexico for nineteen months—separated from the wife and children he loves—to fit some arbitrary standard and wait for interminably slow progress to be made working through all the red tape involved in getting back here legally. For nineteen months, Anabel retired to a cold, lonely bed every night. For all those nineteen months his kids had to get along without a father—a father who loved them very much.

The wheels turn slowly, but they do turn. He is now back home, reunited with the family he loves and missed so much. Now he has to watch his wife continue to support the family while he waits for the Social Security card that will let him work and the driver’s license that will let him drive to work.

Through all this, Anabel has never wavered. Neither her faith in God nor her steadfast insistence on doing things legally has waned. Her battle is not over and won’t be until these last bits of red tape are dealt with and he is able to support his family as he wants so badly to do, but HE’S HOME. This is what my friend has been waiting for all this time.

Have you ever had to go through an extended period of time separated from your spouse? Your children? Let us know how you handled it.


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David N. Walker is a Christian husband, father and grandfather, a grounded pilot and a near-scratch golfer who had to give up the game because of shoulder problems. A graduate of Duke University, he spent 42 years in the health insurance industry, during which time he traveled much of the United States. He started writing about 20 years ago and has been a member and leader in several writers' groups. Christianity 101: The Simplified Christian Life, the devotional Heaven Sent and the novella series, Fancy, are now available in paperback and in Kindle and Nook formats, as well as through Smashwords and Kobo. See information about both of these by clicking "Books" above.
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11 Responses to Miscellaneous Mondays

  1. Unbearable anguish for the family while they are trying to go by the rules. What a joyous reunion. Let’s hope the reduction in staffing at Social Security doesn’t slow things down further with your friends. I don’t think there’s anything harder than being away from those you love. Not since Vietnam have I seen the anguish and pain suffered by so many as we see in our decade+ war we’re involved in now in Afghanistan. My blog today regarding how we’re still paying for Vietnam is at http://sheridegrom.com. The very land still stained by the blood of my husband and three brothers.


  2. Jane Merrick says:

    I’m so happy for Anabel and her family. Love, Jane


  3. Barbara Estinson says:

    I agree with Renee …. a hyper-link to the original would let your readings have a better sense of the struggle that Anabel and her family have endured. But I do remember reading the first one, and I’m so glad that you followed up with this one, David How great that her husband is back and working through the slow process of making it all legal. Kudos to Anabel, her husband, and all her family….. and to you for befriending her.


  4. Karlene says:

    Every trip I fly, I have had to be away. I stay strong because I know they are together, and safe, warm, and have food on their table. I know that separation means that each person is growing and following their dreams. But have I ever been pulled apart without choice? No.
    My only advice is to have faith. Send love in your mind. Know there is a reason and look forward to the days you are together again.


  5. I am so glad that you followed up on this! (I’m a bad follow-upper!) I think you should hyper-link to the original content so that people who don’t know the original story can read it! Something to consider. I like happy endings.


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