WANA: We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.
Those we love don’t have to be exactly like us. Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest . . . It’s about those who came and never left your side.
One of the lessons that’s really been brought home to me by my contacts with other writers through social media is that I can form valued friendships with people who are not like me. My readers know that my Christianity is extremely important to me, yet one of the tweeps I value the most is Jewish. We have agreed to disagree and go on being friends anyhow.
Although I don’t speak out on politics much, my positions are firmly established and rooted in decades of studying and observing, and they are very important to me also. However, I have many tweeps and blog subscribers whose profile statements show them to be my polar opposites. That doesn’t keep us from being friends.
Friendship is not necessarily based upon mutual agreement, although it can be. More important than that is the recognition of the innate worth of the other person. You are absolutely unique in all the universe. There is no one else like you. That alone draws me to you and makes me value you.
The last part of the statement under the photos is that friendship is about those who came and never left your side. Yes, and the best way you can assure that is to be sure you never leave their sides.
If I enter into a friendship seeking what you can do for me, it will be a very shallow relationship, and before long you will begin to see through me and recognize that I’m just trying to take advantage of you. On the other hand, if I enter in a friendship seeking what I can do for you, you will come to appreciate me more and more as time goes by.
David N. Walker is a Christian father and grandfather, a grounded pilot and a near-scratch golfer who had to give up the game because of shoulder problems. A graduate of Duke University, he spent 42 years as a health insurance agent. Most of that career was spent in Texas, but for a few years he traveled many other states. He started writing about 20 years ago, and has six unpublished novels to use as primers on how NOT to write fiction. He is currently putting the finishing touches on his non-fiction Web Wisdom: Godly Inspiration from the Inbox and starting his new fiction work—a series of novellas set during the period from 1860 to 1880—using methods he and @KristenLambTX developed when they cofounded Warrior Writers Boot Camp.
Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or tweet me at @davidnwalkertx