It’s another Life List Club Friday, and my guest today is Lara Schiffbauer, our newest member. I’m proud to have her here today. Enjoy her post below and then skip over to Sonia Medeiros’s site (click here) to read my post on “Old People.”
An Unusual Marriage, by Lara Schiffbauer
Let’s look back to January 1, 2012. On that day in history, many of us completed our annual ceremony of establishing goals and resolutions for the coming year. Each person’s ceremony is a little bit different from another’s, much like a wedding is a demonstration of the bride and groom’s personalities and taste.
My ceremony looked a little something like this:
“Do you, Lara Schiffbauer, take these goals, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, from this day forward, until death you both shall part?”
I thought about it, long and hard. Could I do it? After the honeymoon period where my goals inspired me and encouraged me to become a better person, would daily life intrude, driving a wedge between me and my goals? Would we slowly drift apart, and soon my goals would be sleeping in the back bedroom? How could I sustain a commitment to my goals for a whole year?
It’s a universal truth that the beginnings of things are exciting. We love new – new years, new shoes, babies, new relationships, new goals. However, the key to achieving success in the longterm is sticking with projects, a.k.a. goals, until we have met them.
“Commitment is an act, not a word.” Jean Paul Sartre
Commitment in a relationship is hitting a rough spot, and not breaking up but working through the problem. It’s taking the time to recognize the other person as important and worth the effort required to stay together. It is respect and acknowledgment of the other person’s value as a human being.
Often we make goals with good intentions, but without the commitment needed to see them through. Using the relationship model above, we need to recognize our goals as important. We have to make time and work through the problem, rather than breaking up with our goal because it seems too hard to meet. When the “new” wears off, we have to have commitment as a back-up.
So, back to my goal ceremony. Taking all of this into consideration, I made a decision.
“I do,” I replied, both nervous and excited at the future ahead of me.
What kind of a relationship do you have with your goals? Do you have any ideas on how to remain committed to your goals when the honeymoon is over?
Lara Schiffbauer writes contemporary fantasy and general fiction, and has been lucky enough to see some of her short stories published. By day she works as a school social worker in an elementary school and at night juggles writing, playing with her two adorable little boys, and doing everything else that has to get done in a day. You can find her blogging at www.motivationforcreation.blogspot.com, or tweeting at @LASbauer.